John contemplated marriage for a while. He had been dating Susie for 3 years now and felt it was time. He went to the jewelry store to pick out the cheapest ring he could find and went over to Susie’s house.
As the doorbell rang a feeling of inconvenience ran through John’s body. Susie rushed to the door with anticipation to see the man she loves. When the door opened John let out a disgruntled sigh.
“Hey”
“Hello, John”, Susie said.
“So I think we should get married,” John blurted out,” I don’t want to be alone; you’re not getting any prettier… I’ll still see other people, have fun… and you can cook and clean for me and be at my beck and call.”
Romantic Huh?
If you were Susie your reaction would probably be a slammed door in John’s face (maybe a kick in the groin first) and you would never talk to him again.
It is so clear that John has no true love for Susie. His motivation for getting married is purely for self preservation and want.
It is very clear that John is selfish. No romance is kindled with that kind of proposal.
Yet maybe John is in all of us.
I pass by this church near my neighborhood often. The other day the sign read “Important: Exposure to the Son Prevents Burning” after I giggled a little I wondered if our primary motive as 21st century Christians is “Hell Insurance.” Maybe the mystique of Jesus has worn off and in the end we look at God not as sovereign but as a spare tire kit we never want to use.
With this in mind, I look at the statistics of the modern American church and the decline in the number and I think no wonder. We are teaching the relationship of John and Susie rather than the upmost devotion and love to a Sovereign God! We are treating Jesus like sunscreen rather than the way, the truth, and the life.
So as you sit at your computer and read, be honest with yourself:
Why did you become a Christian?
Was it Fear? Love? Security?
When you look at the cross of Jesus and what it did for you what is your response?
Is it Devotion? Relief?
Are you John?
I look at the story of John and Susie and wonder if it was always like this. I wonder if John ever truly loved Susie. Maybe he did and after days, or weeks, or months, or years of being together he just gave up on wooing her.
It is easy to throw stones at John but we have all been there.
The problem is that we forget just why we loved and thus forget why we should still love. Because someone told us that love is a onetime thing, “you say it once and your good forever” we use that as our excuse. And we so easily forget what true love has meant, means, and will mean to us.
But I have this against you, that you have abandoned the love you had at first. Remember therefore from where you have fallen…
Revelation 2:4-5a ESV
I wonder what the power of the Church would be if we didn’t sell “Hell Insurance” but rather the Grace and Sovereignty of our Lord Jesus Christ.

